Comments for A Goddess in a Cave in the Woods http://www.jennywadley.com The exciting adventures, random thoughts and secret confessions of Jenny Wadley, mere mortal. Thu, 22 Apr 2010 06:06:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on The Pitfalls of Hooky by Jenny Lou http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/04/the-pitfalls-of-hooky.html#comment-12 Jenny Lou Thu, 22 Apr 2010 06:06:12 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=125#comment-12 I know you are continuing to make changes in your life that some people will not agree with but it worries me when you say things like “I know I've let people down. I know I've lost friends. I know I've angered loved ones. And I'm absolutely certain I will do it again and again.” No, we can’t please all of the people all of the time. It is absolutely not possible. But this statement sounds like you have given up and that’s not the Jenny I'm familiar with. I hope you find the strength to locate the optimistic and happy Jenny I know. <br /><br />I know you have struggled with your "people pleasing" ways so much over the years but I will be the first to point out that your biggest break through was having children. It was easy for you to give in to other people's wills and not stand up for YOURSELF but once you had to make choices and decisions for those precious little angels you were able to push through and focus on more important things. It was awesome and empowering to watch you blossom as a mother and a human being at the same time. <br /><br />The people pleasing ways will never completely leave you but they weren’t all bad. They shaped you into who you are. For example, one of the things I love most about you is your gift for kindness. Some people may see 'being kind to a fault' as a weakness but I never saw you make a compromise to be kind. You’re first instinct was to always be kind to people and in many ways I believe you got back what you gave. I see that kindness in your children and it’s one of the most beautiful things you could have given them. <br /><br />I have every confidence you will make it through this obstacle with flying colors as you have many others in your life. Although you may be currently “avoiding the negative thoughts, the necessary difficult tasks, the personal conflict I always wish so desperately to escape.”<br />You never avoid them for long and you will figure things out. We all try to escape problems but you’ll eventually deal with the ones that matter and the rest will just go away. I know you are continuing to make changes in your life that some people will not agree with but it worries me when you say things like “I know I've let people down. I know I've lost friends. I know I've angered loved ones. And I'm absolutely certain I will do it again and again.” No, we can’t please all of the people all of the time. It is absolutely not possible. But this statement sounds like you have given up and that’s not the Jenny I'm familiar with. I hope you find the strength to locate the optimistic and happy Jenny I know.

I know you have struggled with your "people pleasing" ways so much over the years but I will be the first to point out that your biggest break through was having children. It was easy for you to give in to other people's wills and not stand up for YOURSELF but once you had to make choices and decisions for those precious little angels you were able to push through and focus on more important things. It was awesome and empowering to watch you blossom as a mother and a human being at the same time.

The people pleasing ways will never completely leave you but they weren’t all bad. They shaped you into who you are. For example, one of the things I love most about you is your gift for kindness. Some people may see 'being kind to a fault' as a weakness but I never saw you make a compromise to be kind. You’re first instinct was to always be kind to people and in many ways I believe you got back what you gave. I see that kindness in your children and it’s one of the most beautiful things you could have given them.

I have every confidence you will make it through this obstacle with flying colors as you have many others in your life. Although you may be currently “avoiding the negative thoughts, the necessary difficult tasks, the personal conflict I always wish so desperately to escape.”
You never avoid them for long and you will figure things out. We all try to escape problems but you’ll eventually deal with the ones that matter and the rest will just go away.

]]> Comment on The Pitfalls of Hooky by Christi http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/04/the-pitfalls-of-hooky.html#comment-11 Christi Tue, 20 Apr 2010 06:39:09 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=125#comment-11 I can relate to this so much. And I'm definitely up for coffee sometime soon! *hugs* I can relate to this so much. And I'm definitely up for coffee sometime soon! *hugs*

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by Jenny Wadley http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-8 Jenny Wadley Wed, 24 Mar 2010 20:18:48 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-8 Thank you all for your support and your wonderful words! It really does mean so much to me to know that others "get" it, and that my honesty is appreciated.<br /><br />Jason Thibeault, of course I don't mind. I'd be honored. :-) Thank you all for your support and your wonderful words! It really does mean so much to me to know that others "get" it, and that my honesty is appreciated.

Jason Thibeault, of course I don't mind. I'd be honored. :-)

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by Jason Thibeault http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-7 Jason Thibeault Wed, 24 Mar 2010 18:56:28 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-7 Yeah! Great post. Mind if I link it from my blog? Yeah! Great post. Mind if I link it from my blog?

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by Kelley http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-6 Kelley Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:26:35 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-6 Fantastic, Jenny. I am sorry that this happened but I am proud of you for dealing with your emotions around it constructively and positively. And for writing such an awesome blog. <3 you! Fantastic, Jenny. I am sorry that this happened but I am proud of you for dealing with your emotions around it constructively and positively. And for writing such an awesome blog. <3 you!

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by Caren http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-5 Caren Wed, 24 Mar 2010 15:48:48 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-5 This was the best possible article I could have begun my day with (I'm currently struggling with being the "pleaser", keeping the real me inside). Thank you for being so open. This was the best possible article I could have begun my day with (I'm currently struggling with being the "pleaser", keeping the real me inside). Thank you for being so open.

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by Sophie http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-4 Sophie Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:56:01 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-4 Wonderful post. You're a strong and beautiful woman. I'm proud to call you my friend. Wonderful post. You're a strong and beautiful woman. I'm proud to call you my friend.

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by baileythebookworm http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-3 baileythebookworm Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:53:36 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-3 You're awesome :) <br />Honesty is so difficult sometimes -it's much easier to tell people what they want to hear (or yourself) and make people comfortable, rather than discuss what's true but painful or awkward. I admire you for being so committed to being honest, even if it's hard. You're awesome :)
Honesty is so difficult sometimes -it's much easier to tell people what they want to hear (or yourself) and make people comfortable, rather than discuss what's true but painful or awkward. I admire you for being so committed to being honest, even if it's hard.

]]> Comment on The Truth Hurts by CyberLizard http://www.jennywadley.com/2010/03/the-truth-hurts.html#comment-2 CyberLizard Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:46:20 +0000 http://www.jennywadley.com/?p=124#comment-2 I know this was very difficult to write. I'm very proud of you for having the bravery and self confidence to be able to come out and put this out there. I've watched you develop it over the years while at the same time encouraging and helping me grow. <br /><br />I am proud and happy to be your husband and that I get to experience this life with you. I know this was very difficult to write. I'm very proud of you for having the bravery and self confidence to be able to come out and put this out there. I've watched you develop it over the years while at the same time encouraging and helping me grow.

I am proud and happy to be your husband and that I get to experience this life with you.

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